Banana Cream Pie

I remember the first time I had sex and I'm sure most of you do too. It was one of the best feelings I ever encountered and I was eager to experience that feeling again. As I got older I began to understand how my drive for sex from a woman tended to overshadow my genuine interest in a woman. I think men and women use  each other for sex all the time. The difference for me and probably most men is the aftermath of sex, am I still interested  in that woman once I have ejaculated. I must say it has been times when I looked at women after having sex and said to myself what the hell am I doing here. I believe us men are all guilty one time or another of falling for what I call Banana Cream Pie.

Their are two types of women that fall under this category. The first one is the obvious unattractive woman who has a nice body, but is ranked look wise no higher than a five. These women know their not cute and are fully aware that their best attribute is their body. Fellas do not get caught up in the club because Banana Cream Pie is lurking and seeking the drunk handsome guy that she can put that monster on. Men we all know how it goes, the more you drink, the more you disregard what the hell she looks like. This is not someone you would consider being seen with in public so why even get involved with a potential bug a boo. If you find yourself in this situation and you're in the club, bar, restaurant etc. go to a bathroom or somewhere immediately and Jack Off. I promise....you will come to your senses because you will not be pleased with yourself in the morning after having sex with Banana Cream Pie.

The other type of woman are those who range from a six to a dime piece. They believe their beauty should be all that matters like their shit don't stink....I beg to differ you too can be Banana Cream Pie. If you are a woman out in public and has the audacity to be wearing that damn head scarf on your head that you sleep in. (Banana Cream Pie) If I see you out anywhere in your slippers. (Banana Cream Pie) If you are out in public wearing thong flip flops with socks on. (Banana Cream Pie) If your bare ass cheeks can be seen hanging out the bottom of your skirt while walking. (Banana Cream Pie) If I see you spit in public like a dude...I'm straight. (Banana Cream Pie) If you can't hold a conversation without every other word being a curse word. (Banana Cream Pie) If you out with your kids and your clothes clean, but your kids clothes dirty and raggedy.(Banana Cream Pie) If you are a beautiful woman, but ratchet with no common sense. (Banana Cream Pie)

The moral of the story is we as men must start choosing a better quality of woman. I would rather take a 6, 7,8, or 9 with great potential before I take a dime who has nothing else to offer besides her physical attributes. I can take a 6 who is confident and takes pride in herself and mold her into a redefined dime. Even though her looks are just average, she acquires bonus points for her undeniable character and just needs a little inspiration...........Me!

Halloween Unmasked

"Trick or Treat smell my feet give me something good to eat. If you don't I don't care I'll pull down your underwear". Remember how Halloween used to be...getting dressed up and then you and your friends would go door to door, neighborhood to neighborhood trying to get all the candy possible. We had some of the best costumes and really tried to play the character we were dressed as. Now days kids don't even dress up, the streets aren't as safe, but the tradition continues every year. There are other traditions that are being celebrated by our youth and adults now. One in particular is Gay Pride Weekend. I actually had the opportunity to attend this event for a documentary I'm filming that will be released late 2014. This celebration is a week long event to celebrate unity, visibility and self-esteem amongst homosexuals, lesbians, bisexuals and trans genders. Its one of the oldest pride parades in the U.S and was established in 1971. I didn't realize how huge of an event this was until I actually moved here to Atlanta 6 yrs ago. Everyone is dressed up in different characters it reminds you of Halloween. Atlanta is now the 9th gayest city in America, but guess who is number 1....Tacoma Washington......could have fooled me! Atlanta is flooded with gays and lesbians. This sexual lifestyle is becoming more and more socially accepted. I never been to a city where men stare at you more than the women do. I also never imagined I would see the day where I am in competition with women for other women!
People are coming out the closet willingly and unwillingly from celebrities, athletes, ministers to known politicians. Let me make myself clear I personally don't have a problem with a persons sexual preference whether its by choice or susceptible circumstance. I believe long as you happy with who you are that is all that matters everyone is not going to like you anyway. The definition of gay is to be happy so be that without inflicting your lifestyle on others. I have some concerns I would like to address to those living this lifestyle who try to recruit others through deception or prey on our innocent youth. Gay men stop trying to cover up the fact that you're gay all signs point to it: your walk, your behavior, hand gestures, the way you speak and the conscious effort to prove to everyone that you're not gay. (Unmask Yourselves) These are the guys I don't respect and I will be quick to check your neck if I have too! Don't try to befriend me with phony pretense knowing malice is in your heart to hopefully catch me in a vulnerable state. (Unmask Yourselves) To the lesbian community....I'm really good with the fems...it just puzzles me how you want another female that acts like a dude. Wouldn't it  make sense to just be with a guy, but it is what it is. Studs, some of you got the game twisted....remember you can borrow a man's swag, but you still have a female makeup so act accordingly. Please don't think you stronger than a man trying to protect your fem from being hollered at. (Unmask Yourselves) Since you dressed in character like a man I'm a treat you as such. Make sure you check your female before you dare and run up. Stay in your lane I would hate to have to 10 piece you up. (Unmask Yourselves) Finally the most disturbing is how our youth is being preyed upon and recruited. Parents beware, I witnessed this first hand by teaching in the classroom for 10 years. You have to not only take precaution with various adults who may have influence on your child, but the kids are just as bad recruiting early as third grade. They are using tactics and methods that I fond astonishing during my research. This is an ongoing epidemic and we must be aware and educated on what's going on in our schools, communities and today's society. To whom it may concern: (Unmask Yourselves)

The M Word

What's so interesting about the M word. It supposed to be a joined union between a couple who agree to sworn vows before God. The M word that I'm referring to is marriage. Now I'm not married, but from what I hear it can really be a beautiful thing. "Nothing is perfect (except God) you learn to compromise and work through your problems together." This is quoted from a couple that was married for over 35 years and who truly adored one another....my parents. So what's happening with our generation where the divorce rate is higher than its ever been in the last 25 years. 75% of married couples are predicted to be divorced within the first 10 years of marriage. These statistics raise deep concern and have people second guessing if they even want to get married.

 Now some women may say that us men are just scared of making a commitment. I will say women you all have a great point it can be scary or intimidating, but more than just the norm of settling down with one person for the rest of our natural lives. Men, we are taught to protect and provide, so just the thought of feeling inadequate or feeling the fear of failing is crucial. Its not that we cannot step up to the plate, but feeling comfortable enough knowing we put ourselves in a position to succeed in our marriage. We understand it will never be a perfect time, however how we make our money, how much money we make and a plan to sustain is imperative. Women you are always ready, not saying you don't have pressure....its just a different kind of pressure: girl you getting older, don't you want kids etc. I think people's intentions to get married are good, but we tend to marry for all the wrong reasons for ex: Don't do it thinking things or a person will change. If it was bad before he, she or it will only get worst. Don't do it because you have a child together and don't want to see another man or woman raising your child. Don't do it just for the sake of saying you're married like you're checking it off your bucket list. Don't do it if you single, still chasing and you enjoy being a hoe. You will only become a married unfaithful hoe. People kill me taking their ring off when they go out like you can turn marriage off and on like a light switch. People get married and then find out they don't want the responsibility that comes with the marriage. Men and women don't get caught up thinking that you will miss out on something or the grass is greener on the other side. Remember you are always going to see someone that is equally or more attractive than your husband or wife. Getting married shouldn't be the end of the road, the thrill is gone and the fun times are over. Its supposed to be a new beginning that you are going to share with that special person, growing and exploring life together. I don't think couples go into marriage expecting it to fail, you're hoping and praying at the alter that you're making the right decision. I know marriage is meant to be forever, but sometimes relationships just run its course and expires. I am a firm believer that you can fall out of love with a person the same way you fell in love with them. There is no blueprint to follow for making a marriage last. I personally believe the things you did that made that person want to marry you is the same excitement needed throughout the marriage. Make sure you're sincerely in love with the person that he or she is and that you can tolerate their good, bad and ugly before you say I do. For all the happily married couples that still exist...Peace onto you and may god continue to bless your union!

Relax, Relate and Release (Day 31)

Throughout this experience of being celibate for 30 days really open my eyes on the value of sex. This was perhaps the most difficult challenge I have encountered mentally. I was able to keep my mind off sex by exercising, reading and keeping myself busy. I learned how to play chess and improved my ballroom skills on the dance floor. Despite all the activities I had in place, my craving for sex intensified halfway through the journey. I think it was the fact of knowing I couldn't have it or release even if I wanted too. Temptation was everywhere, so we all had to avoid things that were associated with sex: alcohol consumption, what we watch on television and what we read. I was able to get through my day, but it was at night when it was time to sleep that frustrated me the most. Remember we were not allowed to please ourselves, so getting comfortable without your hands in normal positions made it tough if you know what I mean. I became seriously irritated and found myself counting down the days for this challenge to be over. I come to the realization that men and women need each other and shouldn't be withholding sex to prove a point or as a substitute to avoid discussing issues or problems in a relationship. Sex is a connection, chemistry and pleasure between a man and woman. It is not a punishment and shouldn't be used to hurt one another. We must satisfy each other sexual needs no if, ands or buts about it. I'm pleased with the outcome of this challenge and would like to thank everyone who participated. Here are a few responses from those that actually participated and completed the challenge:

Anonymous 1 This challenge helped me with buckling down to get goals completed. I thought this would have driven me crazy, but surprisingly enough I got through it. I got to spend some quality with my wife that did not include sex. She is just glad it is now over

Anonymous 2 I have a summary for you Rashaan don't come up with no more shit like this! LOL

Anonymous 3

My apologies I didn't have no Internet I was changing providers but I want to give a good report sir. The past 2 to 4 weeks now has been very cleansing without the added pressure as mentioned before. I truly have a mentality of carrying this beyond 30 days I'm focusing on allowing this to become of a long-term lifestyle change. It has personally made me feel more purified on a spiritual level!

 

Anonymous 4

The journey was fulfilling as we increased our mental and physical restraint against the flesh. Disciplining our minds that sex isn't a priority, but a sacrifice of self-control. This was definitely and experience to remember, but so glad its over. Now I can relax, relate and release.

 

 

Peace!

Tales from A Hook, Line and Sinker

If you have ever been fishing or watched fishing on television, then you are familiar with this terminology. If you don't know you may want to ask someone that knows, its not very difficult to understand. Fishing is actually considered a sport where fisherman get paid for catching certain types of fish or the largest fish. Sometimes you win and sometimes you lose, but its all part of the game. We all play games because its a part of life and if you've just figured this out you are already losing!

Copyrights by trishrags



Women say men play too many games, but needless to say so do they. Women believe that 90% of the men who approach them are just trying to run game. It hurts me to say this fellas, but I must admit they are absolutely right. Let's examine this further as I breakdown the HOOK, LINE & SINKER.

A mans' first line of attack towards a woman of interest is the(HOOK),stare, aka the bait. If we stare at a woman and get her to stare back for anything longer than 3 seconds we got you. This is a part of the body language signal we send to get your attention in hopes that you bite. Women are fully aware of this strategy and show their disinterest by not staring back. When women stare back its an open invite hoping we come over and introduce ourselves. This is where the women play the game just on the receiving end. Fellas if you out with your woman, date or wife and she entertains the stare from a man, leave her immediately.The same rule of thumb applies to us men, if its more than a glance ladies, let him go. Remember the stare back tells us its potential and if she/he wasn't with you currently she/he would holler. This shows no respect for your partner, no self-control and ultimately you may be a  hoe. Women do not like to be perceived as thirsty, loose or desperate, so normally they won't approach a man because its considered unladylike. However, the more aggressive woman will initiate the stare and that's her way of  sending subtle hints and clues.

Now that you have her attention its time for phase 2 the conversation.(LINE) At this point for us men its all about being cool, charming and not saying nothing stupid. Fellas you do not get this far to drop the ball so stay confident and  focused. Always act like you been in this position before even if you haven't. You can have all the looks in the world but without the mouthpiece it means nothing. Now I'm sorry I cannot give you guys the words or specific things to say because the game is to be sold not told. I will tell you this, no matter what you say the mission is to get the number and getting the number is half the battle. (SINKER)Now that you see she is interested your job isn't complete until you follow up with the phone call to meet up. This is where you began to make the determination if you want to just play with your fish or do you want to take your fish home to be cleaned and seasoned. (I like my fish fillet)

My name is Rashaan and I approve this message!

Helpful Tips When Going On A First Date

copyrights: Brooklyn Bridge Baby

 

The dating game has changed tremendously over the years. People can now find their supposedly perfect match online through the numerous dating sites. (SCARY) I personally like the old fashion way of meeting a person face to face without any prerequisites of a particular profile. Here are my helpful tips to consider when going on a first date:


1. Do not pick your date up from their home and do not let your date pick you up. You may advise your date of the time, place to meet and the dress attire for the occasion. This allows you to see if your date has transportation and if the date is a disaster you don't have to deal with the awkwardness of driving him/her home. In addition, you don't know if this person is psycho or deranged, so why tell this person where you live. Also, never tell a person where you work. You can tell he/she what you do for a living but never give out the exact location.



2. Think outside the box when it comes to making plans for you and your date. Don't settle for the typical date of a dinner and a movie. Its the safest move true, but dare to be different, creative, spontaneous and adventurous. Keep in mind a date doesn't always have to be at night. Have a breakfast date over a bagel and cappuccino and then take a nice walk in the park. You can do a brunch with mimosas (women love these and fellas their actually pretty good.)You can go miniature golfing or visit an art museum where you can still talk. You can have a picnic with fruit, chips, dip and sandwiches or whatever you like, but be sure to have a backup in case of inclement weather. All of these ideas are fairly inexpensive for a first date. I don't understand why men try to overly impress by spending alot of money on someone you just met and may not ever see again. That's utterly ridiculous!

3. The purpose of the date is to see if you have things in common. Check to see if your personalities click and make sure you ask the necessary questions: What do you do for a living, what do you like to do for fun, what are your interests and hobbies, are you married, gay, how many kids do you have(the one on the way counts), what are your intentions to have fun or looking for a serious commitment. Please feel free to add to this list, but be careful not to overdue it because you leave no room for conversation on the next date if all goes well.

4. Remember its the first date so each person will be bringing their best representative. This is who he/she wants you to think they really are so don't get too excited. No one wants you to think they are abusive, stalker, possessive or flat out crazy.



GOOD LUCK!!

The Fighting Temptation (12 days left)



Day 8: was  rough, I haven't gone this long without sex. Since I was at work there was no temptation, but I took some time and played with my son after I got off of work to get sex off my mind.
Day9:I exercised before work to get rid of some excess energy. It was an OK day.
Day 10:I was really losing it yesterday until a medical emergency with my son, CJ happened
Day 11:The urge was starting to build but thanks to some overtime, I was able to manage.
Day 12:Took sometime to relax and spend some quality father son time with my son, CJ.
Day 13:Yesterday was tough but I got through it. Did a little exercising to get rid of some excess energy.

Day 14:Yesterday wasn't hard but I don't know if the wife can last 2 more weeks.

Day 15:This would be the easiest day of the challenge. I was so sick sex was the last thing on my mind.
Day 16:No urges on this day because I was sick.
Day 17:Had a family day since Tiara was off. Cj kept us occupied so thinking about sex wasn't an issue.
Day 18:Exercised in the morning to work off some energy that was building up. I worked all day yesterday to keep my mind clear.
Anonymous 1

Day 8-No complaints
Day 9- Was pretty awesome I went and met up with a close friend for dinner and
drinks. It was great to as my father says “to put eyes” on him, he and I talk almost
daily so it was great to connect in a different way then being on the phone. He
has participated in a challenge similar to this 2 years ago and he went 4 months
celibate… so I keep trying to tell myself if he can do 4 months then surely I can do 30
days. The struggle is real.
Day 10- I woke up having had the most amazing dream about sex!. Wishing it wasn’t
just a dream…
Day 11- What happened to last weeks enlightenment? I feel irritable, reckless
and punished. I left my phone in my friends car and won’t be able to get it until
tomorrow. I need to phone a friend and at least air out my frustration out. Thinking
about sex….

Day 12- was tough….

Day 13- Equally tough as day 12. Today I realized how much this challenge has affected me emotionally. I’ve probably gotten into it on some level (big or small) with just about everybody close to me. I’ve been a not so nice person, walking the line of a full on $&*#@. Day 14 I have been stressed because I realize that my several project and plans I have for my future have changed dramatically and now I have to establish the back-up plan. Thought about again falling off the challenge but decided to move onward.

Day 14- I feel indifferent. I am still somewhat emotional but feel a little bit more physically and mentally aligned compared to earlier this week. Today was pretty awesome, I got a lot done and left the day exhausted.

Day 15- I’m cool. No struggle.

Day 16- Still cool. Back to normal.

Day 17-Feeling normal. No woes
Anonymous 2

 

Day 8- I was cool no urge

Day 9- I'm still focused working out

Day 10-I'm getting weak sex is on my mind heavy

Day 11-I had a very rough morning but felt much better after my cardio workout
Day 12- I had a great day my mind was occupied with work and other business ventures
Day 13- Good day today I went to play ball for the first time in 6 months
Day 14- I'm too sore to be thinking about sex Epsom salt bath is all that's on my mind. but at night before I went to bed was tough. restless night temptation was trying to get me.
Day 15- I'm very irritable today, starting to feel like I'm punishing myself by not getting the relief I'm used too. I'm about ready to quit!!
Day 16- I'm back focused feeling good and ready to get through the next 2 weeks.
Day 17- I was extremely busy with work no problems.
Day 18- Feeling real good getting ready for my fantasy draft I been researching all day
Anonymous 3