My Brothers Keeper

"Am I my brothers keeper? Yes I am". "What's yours is mine and what's mine is yours". We crew, dogs, friends, brothers and homeboys. These quotes, slogans and sayings all represent the special relationship we have with our friends. The misconception is that we all assume that our friends know what it takes and means to be a real friend. Its certain lines that cannot be crossed if you are a true friend and plan on remaining a true friend. Let me remind you that everyone isn't cut from the same cloth, live by the same code or share the same principles. For this reason alone I don't have many friends. I have plenty of associates, but this doesn't mean that I rocks with you, I'm not kicking it or hanging out at no spots with you. I wouldn't even pull up on the set and share the same block with you. I don't give passes because I met you in classes and we not automatically cool cause we attended the same school.

Someone asked me how would I feel if one of my friends slept with or became seriously involved with and ex-girlfriend of mine? Now I don't believe in standing in the way of someones happiness but I do believe in loyalty and respect. A real friend doesn't have to be given guidelines or rules when it comes to real friendship. For ex: One of my best friends knew I was dating this girl several years ago but it was long distance. This is before I realized that long distance relationships in my book are non existence. My bro let me know the moment I came in town that my so called girl was banging his cousin. Now I didn't ask him to watch her while I was away, but somethings just go without being said. That's my bro to this day and even though my girl was banging his cousin, he still felt obligated to let me know. I don't put too much stock into everyone claiming to be a friend because I know the truth. Friendship is proven not stated. A true friend wouldn't dare be with someone I was seriously involved with especially without my blessings period.

I had a roommate in college we were both from the same hometown. We met these two girls, best friends from California and began dating them full time. Now this roommate and I weren't best friends but cool enough to room together being from the same city and attended the same high school. We hung everyday, kicking it on campus, got into fights together and we had each others back at least I thought. We actually help form an organization called Studio Tyme and called each other brothers. Well long story short, we end up breaking up with the California girls, but not before he had kids by both girls and is now married to the girl I was seeing. Its not the fact that he a foul cat, but he couldn't come holler at me like a man and we supposed to be like brothers...please! I have obviously moved on, but this is confirmation that some of your so called dogs, boys, girls, partners etc don't really care about you like that, unless its something in it for them.

Trust wisely!
AM I MY BROTHERS KEEPER?????????????YES I AM

For Better or Worse(I choose You)

I accept the fact that even though you are my future, you are also someones past. We both been hurt through previous relationships formed wounds turned to scars. Through the good and bad I take you as you are baby flaws and all. Our souls are connected and our spirits speak to each other. I yearn for your presence every time we're not together. We were both made in the image of God and I'm happy that our trust and commitment is to him first. Every king deserves a queen we make a hell of a team. Our energy runs deep even total strangers can see. You know when to follow and let your man take the lead. Submissive and being weak are two total different things. I know sometimes it just seems too good to be true but what if its fate cause if that's the case then its meant to be.

 I can't lye I get tempted on the daily by the flesh of  beautiful women in  high heels, skirts, tights, jeans or a dress. We both know that their is a difference between love and sex. I may look, but you the only one I'm knocking wind from the chest. I like how we joke with each other...."you go girl" and you say "boy you a mess." When I'm stressing and needing space you not all in my face, instead you make me a drink, rub my shoulders and say everything is gone be okay. You are my partner, my lover but most importantly my best friend, no secrets and if we're beefing we make a peaceful mends.

This isn't some made up fairy tale epic cause nothings perfect. Compromises are made keep our business separate from personal. Our issues stay in house because you and I don't always agree, but know how to sacrifice the you and I for the sake of we. Love is a choice and I choose you not because I have to, but I choose to spend the rest of my life with you. They say its better to give than receive, so here is my player card and my jersey standing on bended knee!

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Peace & Love

Banana Cream Pie

I remember the first time I had sex and I'm sure most of you do too. It was one of the best feelings I ever encountered and I was eager to experience that feeling again. As I got older I began to understand how my drive for sex from a woman tended to overshadow my genuine interest in a woman. I think men and women use  each other for sex all the time. The difference for me and probably most men is the aftermath of sex, am I still interested  in that woman once I have ejaculated. I must say it has been times when I looked at women after having sex and said to myself what the hell am I doing here. I believe us men are all guilty one time or another of falling for what I call Banana Cream Pie.

Their are two types of women that fall under this category. The first one is the obvious unattractive woman who has a nice body, but is ranked look wise no higher than a five. These women know their not cute and are fully aware that their best attribute is their body. Fellas do not get caught up in the club because Banana Cream Pie is lurking and seeking the drunk handsome guy that she can put that monster on. Men we all know how it goes, the more you drink, the more you disregard what the hell she looks like. This is not someone you would consider being seen with in public so why even get involved with a potential bug a boo. If you find yourself in this situation and you're in the club, bar, restaurant etc. go to a bathroom or somewhere immediately and Jack Off. I promise....you will come to your senses because you will not be pleased with yourself in the morning after having sex with Banana Cream Pie.

The other type of woman are those who range from a six to a dime piece. They believe their beauty should be all that matters like their shit don't stink....I beg to differ you too can be Banana Cream Pie. If you are a woman out in public and has the audacity to be wearing that damn head scarf on your head that you sleep in. (Banana Cream Pie) If I see you out anywhere in your slippers. (Banana Cream Pie) If you are out in public wearing thong flip flops with socks on. (Banana Cream Pie) If your bare ass cheeks can be seen hanging out the bottom of your skirt while walking. (Banana Cream Pie) If I see you spit in public like a dude...I'm straight. (Banana Cream Pie) If you can't hold a conversation without every other word being a curse word. (Banana Cream Pie) If you out with your kids and your clothes clean, but your kids clothes dirty and raggedy.(Banana Cream Pie) If you are a beautiful woman, but ratchet with no common sense. (Banana Cream Pie)

The moral of the story is we as men must start choosing a better quality of woman. I would rather take a 6, 7,8, or 9 with great potential before I take a dime who has nothing else to offer besides her physical attributes. I can take a 6 who is confident and takes pride in herself and mold her into a redefined dime. Even though her looks are just average, she acquires bonus points for her undeniable character and just needs a little inspiration...........Me!

Halloween Unmasked

"Trick or Treat smell my feet give me something good to eat. If you don't I don't care I'll pull down your underwear". Remember how Halloween used to be...getting dressed up and then you and your friends would go door to door, neighborhood to neighborhood trying to get all the candy possible. We had some of the best costumes and really tried to play the character we were dressed as. Now days kids don't even dress up, the streets aren't as safe, but the tradition continues every year. There are other traditions that are being celebrated by our youth and adults now. One in particular is Gay Pride Weekend. I actually had the opportunity to attend this event for a documentary I'm filming that will be released late 2014. This celebration is a week long event to celebrate unity, visibility and self-esteem amongst homosexuals, lesbians, bisexuals and trans genders. Its one of the oldest pride parades in the U.S and was established in 1971. I didn't realize how huge of an event this was until I actually moved here to Atlanta 6 yrs ago. Everyone is dressed up in different characters it reminds you of Halloween. Atlanta is now the 9th gayest city in America, but guess who is number 1....Tacoma Washington......could have fooled me! Atlanta is flooded with gays and lesbians. This sexual lifestyle is becoming more and more socially accepted. I never been to a city where men stare at you more than the women do. I also never imagined I would see the day where I am in competition with women for other women!
People are coming out the closet willingly and unwillingly from celebrities, athletes, ministers to known politicians. Let me make myself clear I personally don't have a problem with a persons sexual preference whether its by choice or susceptible circumstance. I believe long as you happy with who you are that is all that matters everyone is not going to like you anyway. The definition of gay is to be happy so be that without inflicting your lifestyle on others. I have some concerns I would like to address to those living this lifestyle who try to recruit others through deception or prey on our innocent youth. Gay men stop trying to cover up the fact that you're gay all signs point to it: your walk, your behavior, hand gestures, the way you speak and the conscious effort to prove to everyone that you're not gay. (Unmask Yourselves) These are the guys I don't respect and I will be quick to check your neck if I have too! Don't try to befriend me with phony pretense knowing malice is in your heart to hopefully catch me in a vulnerable state. (Unmask Yourselves) To the lesbian community....I'm really good with the fems...it just puzzles me how you want another female that acts like a dude. Wouldn't it  make sense to just be with a guy, but it is what it is. Studs, some of you got the game twisted....remember you can borrow a man's swag, but you still have a female makeup so act accordingly. Please don't think you stronger than a man trying to protect your fem from being hollered at. (Unmask Yourselves) Since you dressed in character like a man I'm a treat you as such. Make sure you check your female before you dare and run up. Stay in your lane I would hate to have to 10 piece you up. (Unmask Yourselves) Finally the most disturbing is how our youth is being preyed upon and recruited. Parents beware, I witnessed this first hand by teaching in the classroom for 10 years. You have to not only take precaution with various adults who may have influence on your child, but the kids are just as bad recruiting early as third grade. They are using tactics and methods that I fond astonishing during my research. This is an ongoing epidemic and we must be aware and educated on what's going on in our schools, communities and today's society. To whom it may concern: (Unmask Yourselves)

The M Word

What's so interesting about the M word. It supposed to be a joined union between a couple who agree to sworn vows before God. The M word that I'm referring to is marriage. Now I'm not married, but from what I hear it can really be a beautiful thing. "Nothing is perfect (except God) you learn to compromise and work through your problems together." This is quoted from a couple that was married for over 35 years and who truly adored one another....my parents. So what's happening with our generation where the divorce rate is higher than its ever been in the last 25 years. 75% of married couples are predicted to be divorced within the first 10 years of marriage. These statistics raise deep concern and have people second guessing if they even want to get married.

 Now some women may say that us men are just scared of making a commitment. I will say women you all have a great point it can be scary or intimidating, but more than just the norm of settling down with one person for the rest of our natural lives. Men, we are taught to protect and provide, so just the thought of feeling inadequate or feeling the fear of failing is crucial. Its not that we cannot step up to the plate, but feeling comfortable enough knowing we put ourselves in a position to succeed in our marriage. We understand it will never be a perfect time, however how we make our money, how much money we make and a plan to sustain is imperative. Women you are always ready, not saying you don't have pressure....its just a different kind of pressure: girl you getting older, don't you want kids etc. I think people's intentions to get married are good, but we tend to marry for all the wrong reasons for ex: Don't do it thinking things or a person will change. If it was bad before he, she or it will only get worst. Don't do it because you have a child together and don't want to see another man or woman raising your child. Don't do it just for the sake of saying you're married like you're checking it off your bucket list. Don't do it if you single, still chasing and you enjoy being a hoe. You will only become a married unfaithful hoe. People kill me taking their ring off when they go out like you can turn marriage off and on like a light switch. People get married and then find out they don't want the responsibility that comes with the marriage. Men and women don't get caught up thinking that you will miss out on something or the grass is greener on the other side. Remember you are always going to see someone that is equally or more attractive than your husband or wife. Getting married shouldn't be the end of the road, the thrill is gone and the fun times are over. Its supposed to be a new beginning that you are going to share with that special person, growing and exploring life together. I don't think couples go into marriage expecting it to fail, you're hoping and praying at the alter that you're making the right decision. I know marriage is meant to be forever, but sometimes relationships just run its course and expires. I am a firm believer that you can fall out of love with a person the same way you fell in love with them. There is no blueprint to follow for making a marriage last. I personally believe the things you did that made that person want to marry you is the same excitement needed throughout the marriage. Make sure you're sincerely in love with the person that he or she is and that you can tolerate their good, bad and ugly before you say I do. For all the happily married couples that still exist...Peace onto you and may god continue to bless your union!

Relax, Relate and Release (Day 31)

Throughout this experience of being celibate for 30 days really open my eyes on the value of sex. This was perhaps the most difficult challenge I have encountered mentally. I was able to keep my mind off sex by exercising, reading and keeping myself busy. I learned how to play chess and improved my ballroom skills on the dance floor. Despite all the activities I had in place, my craving for sex intensified halfway through the journey. I think it was the fact of knowing I couldn't have it or release even if I wanted too. Temptation was everywhere, so we all had to avoid things that were associated with sex: alcohol consumption, what we watch on television and what we read. I was able to get through my day, but it was at night when it was time to sleep that frustrated me the most. Remember we were not allowed to please ourselves, so getting comfortable without your hands in normal positions made it tough if you know what I mean. I became seriously irritated and found myself counting down the days for this challenge to be over. I come to the realization that men and women need each other and shouldn't be withholding sex to prove a point or as a substitute to avoid discussing issues or problems in a relationship. Sex is a connection, chemistry and pleasure between a man and woman. It is not a punishment and shouldn't be used to hurt one another. We must satisfy each other sexual needs no if, ands or buts about it. I'm pleased with the outcome of this challenge and would like to thank everyone who participated. Here are a few responses from those that actually participated and completed the challenge:

Anonymous 1 This challenge helped me with buckling down to get goals completed. I thought this would have driven me crazy, but surprisingly enough I got through it. I got to spend some quality with my wife that did not include sex. She is just glad it is now over

Anonymous 2 I have a summary for you Rashaan don't come up with no more shit like this! LOL

Anonymous 3

My apologies I didn't have no Internet I was changing providers but I want to give a good report sir. The past 2 to 4 weeks now has been very cleansing without the added pressure as mentioned before. I truly have a mentality of carrying this beyond 30 days I'm focusing on allowing this to become of a long-term lifestyle change. It has personally made me feel more purified on a spiritual level!

 

Anonymous 4

The journey was fulfilling as we increased our mental and physical restraint against the flesh. Disciplining our minds that sex isn't a priority, but a sacrifice of self-control. This was definitely and experience to remember, but so glad its over. Now I can relax, relate and release.

 

 

Peace!

Tales from A Hook, Line and Sinker

If you have ever been fishing or watched fishing on television, then you are familiar with this terminology. If you don't know you may want to ask someone that knows, its not very difficult to understand. Fishing is actually considered a sport where fisherman get paid for catching certain types of fish or the largest fish. Sometimes you win and sometimes you lose, but its all part of the game. We all play games because its a part of life and if you've just figured this out you are already losing!

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Women say men play too many games, but needless to say so do they. Women believe that 90% of the men who approach them are just trying to run game. It hurts me to say this fellas, but I must admit they are absolutely right. Let's examine this further as I breakdown the HOOK, LINE & SINKER.

A mans' first line of attack towards a woman of interest is the(HOOK),stare, aka the bait. If we stare at a woman and get her to stare back for anything longer than 3 seconds we got you. This is a part of the body language signal we send to get your attention in hopes that you bite. Women are fully aware of this strategy and show their disinterest by not staring back. When women stare back its an open invite hoping we come over and introduce ourselves. This is where the women play the game just on the receiving end. Fellas if you out with your woman, date or wife and she entertains the stare from a man, leave her immediately.The same rule of thumb applies to us men, if its more than a glance ladies, let him go. Remember the stare back tells us its potential and if she/he wasn't with you currently she/he would holler. This shows no respect for your partner, no self-control and ultimately you may be a  hoe. Women do not like to be perceived as thirsty, loose or desperate, so normally they won't approach a man because its considered unladylike. However, the more aggressive woman will initiate the stare and that's her way of  sending subtle hints and clues.

Now that you have her attention its time for phase 2 the conversation.(LINE) At this point for us men its all about being cool, charming and not saying nothing stupid. Fellas you do not get this far to drop the ball so stay confident and  focused. Always act like you been in this position before even if you haven't. You can have all the looks in the world but without the mouthpiece it means nothing. Now I'm sorry I cannot give you guys the words or specific things to say because the game is to be sold not told. I will tell you this, no matter what you say the mission is to get the number and getting the number is half the battle. (SINKER)Now that you see she is interested your job isn't complete until you follow up with the phone call to meet up. This is where you began to make the determination if you want to just play with your fish or do you want to take your fish home to be cleaned and seasoned. (I like my fish fillet)

My name is Rashaan and I approve this message!