Friends With Benefits and Living Together Can It Work?

Let's explore the definition of Friends with Benefits: Two friends who have a sexual relationship without being emotionally involved. Typically two good friends who have casual sex without a monogamous relationship or any kind of commitment. This sounds good on paper, but there are a few variables that everyone tends to ignore. Controlling your emotions is a very difficult task, despite the ground rules and guidelines that should be in place, the more time you spend with each other the worst for both of you in this situation. Both people need to treat Friends with Benefits like a business partnership. Rule #1 We are hooking up to have sex and sex only! There is no dating, courting, no movies, picnics, walking in the park, going to plays, concerts, comedy shows or going out to dinner. The only thing allowed is having a few drinks or smoking whatever your preference if needed, before you indulge in sex.

Rule #2 No Love Making: no gazing into the eyes, massaging, rubbing feet, no kissing, but you may kiss the body, no cuddling after sex, holding hands and no spending the night. However, in this case where you live together please have your own room....so fellas don't give in and let her spend the night she got to go. Rule #3 Discipline, this rule is extremely tough because your mind has to be right! Listen I don't care how good the sex is never ever ever say the words I LOVE YOU. Try not to say anything that makes him/her believe its more than sex and there could be a possible future between you two. Fellas treat her like your home girl and ladies treat him like your home boy. Keep the relationship in the friend zone at all times, feel comfortable talking to other women or men in front of him/her remember you aren't committed to one another. Go out on dates and don't feel like you have to conceal info. If he/she asks let them know you're going out on a date. This gives confirmation and is a constant reminder that its nothing more than the hot sex between you.

If either party catches feelings, a decision must be made to either end the sex and remain friends or try to be in a committed relationship period. So I'm not saying living together as friends with benefits cannot work, but please believe you have your hands full. The sex alone attaches unexpected feelings and emotions even though its just physical. If you want a chance of this working stay focused on following the rules, be honest and treat the situation for what it is.