Wednesday, July 24, 2013

Heads and Tails

We all have standards & preferences when choosing a man or woman of interest. Women can be very detailed with their preferences, depending on what that woman really likes, determines her attraction to a man. Some women prefer handsome, tall, dark skin, light skin, athletic build etc. I've actually had girls tell me "Rashaan you are very handsome and I would give you some if you weren't so skinny." This was back in my younger days of course where you ladies at now LOL! The ideal man must meet that woman's physical standard in order to even be considered. Presentation is everything, how you dress and carry yourself makes the difference between having swag and being lame. Women love swag and just so I'm clear, swag isn't taught its either in you or its not.



Happy young couple  in sexual intercourse - stock photo
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A woman knows from the first time she meets a man if she is going to offer him some tail. Its never a matter of if, its just a matter of when the opportunity presents itself. Now men, we are very visual when it comes to woman, so our standards are similar, but slightly different. Most men don't care if you tall, short, light, dark, ugly or cute, just make sure that woman has some tail! Don't get me wrong some men are into nice legs, breast and flat stomachs, but a woman knows if her wagon is dragging a man is going to holler at her, regardless of how the rest of her body may look. No disrespect to the women, but think about why you see so many unattractive, uncomfortably built women with nice tails....pregnant. That woman put that a## on some man and at the end of the day we figure its all the same when the lights go out.

Men have two heads while women have one head and one tail. We as men have been chasing tail for a longtime, but tend to make bad decisions when we don't use both heads in dealing with women. My grandmother once told me god rest her soul, "A mans biggest downfall in life is a woman's a## and a liquor glass". BBD said it best "you can't trust a big butt and a smile that girl is poison." Women know we love some tail, so they use that hairy or bald headed monster between their legs to their advantage. Women can giveth and women can taketh away. Fellas we must be stronger and remember what looks good to you isn't always good for you. We can't give in every time a woman tries to mesmerize us with the tail. Women need to be told NO, feel rejected sometimes and understand that their tail is no more important than our head.
 

Friday, July 19, 2013

Friends With Benefits and Living Together Can It Work?

Let's explore the definition of Friends with Benefits: Two friends who have a sexual relationship without being emotionally involved. Typically two good friends who have casual sex without a monogamous relationship or any kind of commitment. This sounds good on paper, but there are a few variables that everyone tends to ignore. Controlling your emotions is a very difficult task, despite the ground rules and guidelines that should be in place, the more time you spend with each other the worst for both of you in this situation. Both people need to treat Friends with Benefits like a business partnership. Rule #1 We are hooking up to have sex and sex only! There is no dating, courting, no movies, picnics, walking in the park, going to plays, concerts, comedy shows or going out to dinner. The only thing allowed is having a few drinks or smoking whatever your preference if needed, before you indulge in sex.

Rule #2 No Love Making: no gazing into the eyes, massaging, rubbing feet, no kissing, but you may kiss the body, no cuddling after sex, holding hands and no spending the night. However, in this case where you live together please have your own room....so fellas don't give in and let her spend the night she got to go. Rule #3 Discipline, this rule is extremely tough because your mind has to be right! Listen I don't care how good the sex is never ever ever say the words I LOVE YOU. Try not to say anything that makes him/her believe its more than sex and there could be a possible future between you two. Fellas treat her like your home girl and ladies treat him like your home boy. Keep the relationship in the friend zone at all times, feel comfortable talking to other women or men in front of him/her remember you aren't committed to one another. Go out on dates and don't feel like you have to conceal info. If he/she asks let them know you're going out on a date. This gives confirmation and is a constant reminder that its nothing more than the hot sex between you.

If either party catches feelings, a decision must be made to either end the sex and remain friends or try to be in a committed relationship period. So I'm not saying living together as friends with benefits cannot work, but please believe you have your hands full. The sex alone attaches unexpected feelings and emotions even though its just physical. If you want a chance of this working stay focused on following the rules, be honest and treat the situation for what it is.